Would my coworkers see me differently if I told them.......?

that i think the manager is hot?



except he's really really strict..



i get along with *most* of my co-workers.. i was about to tell one of them yesterday, when we were talking about how strict the manager is.... but i was like nahh, it can wait.Would my coworkers see me differently if I told them.......?
i think this is one that is probably best kept to yourselfWould my coworkers see me differently if I told them.......?
no i dont think so
Be careful with workplace relationships.....!!
probably not...but y do u feel this need to tell them? lol
they would think that you are very weird, trust me keep this to yourself.
Well, it depends on how they see you now.



If they see you as a hardworking professional, then, yeah, they'll look at you differently.



But if they see you as the immature, self-absorbed, office gossip, then probably no change.
They might think you were trying to get ahead. lol
You may get some incentives no matter how strict may he be!!
attraction is attraction if you think sum 1 is hot them u think they r hot sometimes i think someone is ugly but attacted to tem

Is there any problem with having female coworkers sitting on my lap?

I like my girlfriend and we get along very well. But she can't uderstand that I am of free will and don't want that she impose me limits. We have parties with coworkers from job, male and female. I like female (as friends) and some of them sit in my lap while talking. No other thoughts still it is nice to feel that coworkers like so much to sit on you. Then my girlfriend found out and ';Alleluja'; she was angry and furious how can I do such things, touch other women, cuddling them on my legs etc. She believes that only two persons, who love each other, may do that. She looks at it as sign of infidelity. I told her that she is behaving really strange, funny and immature. She doesn't understand what means friendship beacuse she doesn't go to many parties and is more asocial, she just wants to be with me and closest frineds. I told her to grow up and get real or she may go. What normal person would have anything against socialising with female coworkers? Isn't that so? Thank you for answer.Is there any problem with having female coworkers sitting on my lap?
well I can see why this ended up in the dog section...





I hope your girlfriend wises up and dumps you for someone who is alot more respectful and mature...Is there any problem with having female coworkers sitting on my lap?
Well I guess this is appropriate for the DOG section, but I think you missunderstood the type of dog the questions should be about.
Um Wrong section? You posted this is ';Dogs';





I do kinda find that offensive. And I agree with Live, Love, Bark! 1 up to you. ( and the other answers hah!)
Guys like you are exactly why I prefer dogs to men, more loyalty. Yes, there are MANY problems with having female coworkers sitting in your lap including the possibity of disciplinary action by your exployer due to sexual harassment charges.



Grow up.



Why isn't it normal for people to let ';friends'; sit in their laps? Because that's uncivilized. Maybe if you're a sheik and want your harem girls to do it, fine, but in this society that kind of behavior is reserved for one's girlfriend. Does your Mom sit on a lot of guys' laps or just your Dad's? Ha, they're probably not even together anymore.



That's your problem, you don't even know what people in a committed relationship are supposed to do.

How do I overcome my jealousy with my boyfriend and his coworker?

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We live together but are not engaged. We are both teachers. However, we teach at different schools. As the school year is approaching I can feel my jealousy and insecurities coming back. He shares an office with a female and they go to eat lunch once a week. She is getting married in October. I know they do not do anything sexually however both he and she are flirtatious in general. I have spoken to him numerous times about it and I even went along once with them for lunch. She knows about me and always asks about me. But how do I get it through my head, (without discussing it with him) that it is okay and how do I overcome my jealousy toward the whole situation and her as a whole? It has caused many fights between he and I and I am already upset about this upcoming year. How can I not let it affect me?Even when I think that I am over it, it creeps back to bothering me and comes out as an arguement with my boyfriend.

**please only serious answers as I do not think I can handle any rude remarks.

***Also, as mentioned, I have spoke to my boyfriend about this and he sees nothing wrong with what he is doing. How do I overcome my jealousy with my boyfriend and his coworker?
i have a similar situation, and i cant ever get the thought out of my head that is something is going to happen.



what i do, is take a few deep breaths, then think about the situation, the basics for you-

1-weve been together for three years

2-shes getting married

3-he hasnt done anything shady before

(and all of the positives about your relationship)



then come to terms that, probably nothing will happen



most guys are oblivious to the things they do, things like going to lunch with a co worker. they dont think anything of it, so neither should you.



my boyfriend goes out to eat with a friend of his who is a girl quite often, but i just trust him. and ive been hurt before, but thats all you can do, is trust and hope for the best. and if yall have a solid good relationship, where he hasnt done anything bad before, after three years there really is no need to worry or be jealous



easier said than done, but when that thought comes into your head, try doing what i suggested. just dont dwell on the thought, that would be the worst thing to do.

youd hurt yourself and then you could be so insecure it could start more fights with your boyfriend and things might happen

thats the scary thing



goodluck :)

facial hair

make to afford

Nosy neighbor/coworker?

Just recently my boyfriend's supervisor moved in next door, along with another one of his coworkers. Our apartment building's walls are very thin, so I admit, you can hear mumbling through the walls. We try to be as quiet as possible. Yet everyday this supervisor heckles and bothers my boyfriend about ';not being able to sleep'; because of ';too much noise';, rudely implying us. We're quiet and we mind our own business, but what else can we do? I want to give the supervisor a clear message to mind her own business and stop harassing my boyfriend over trivial matters. He doesn't want to complain because he has to work with her and wants to maintain friendliness, while I want to get a clear message across anyway possible.

How can i get this crazy woman to leave us alone?Nosy neighbor/coworker?
You guys were living there when she decided to move in. That was her decision and she should not have made it, then. Don't try to alter your lifestyle to please her. It doesn't matter if she's his supervisor. She is not his boss when they are not at work, and she can't control his home life. If she is having problems there then she is always free to find another place to live. You should not have to tell her anything about leaving you alone. Just don't worry about her. You and your boyfriend need to make the decision to live your lives the way you always have and the woman will just have to deal with that. Or go away. It's her choice.Nosy neighbor/coworker?
You can't her mind is made up and the only choice you have is to move away from the b*tch.
I would just tell her straight out that you are very quiet and love when your neighbors are also. Tell her she may want to look at the others in the building (if there are any). You do want to keep the peace with people, but when you're falsely being accused of something they need to be set straight.
You are right, she is rude. Is she asking him these questions at work in front of his co-workers? If so, her behaviour is totally inappropriate and defamatory. She should not be a supervisor with those people skills.



He is not complaining if he confronts her on her inappropriate behaviour. She, as his supervisor, has crossed over the line and what goes on after hours and not at work is none of her business.



If she is just saying this to him with no one around, (and it was me she was grilling) I would ask her point blank to explain what type of noise she is hearing (and I would patiently wait for her answer with a straight face). If she dishes out some sort of sexual innuendo, I would ask her directly why she seems to be so preoccupied with what is going on in my life.



Or, he could approach it with humour. When she talks about the ';too much noise'; coming out of your apartment, he could say ';yeah, I have been meaning to talk to you about that. Perhaps you should come over - we have concerns about the noise level too.'; and just leave it at that. A big open question that she will be wondering exactly what he meant by ';too much noise';. If she does take him up on the offer and comes over, he could guide her to the fridge or air conditioner (or some other potentially noisy appliance) and just stand there looking at it making small talk about calling in a repair man or the building superintendent to have a look at it. You could totally play dumb to her sexual innuendo - if she is not getting a reaction out of him (I assume she is trying to embarrass him) then she will stop.
I have been through situations like this so many times. Guess what? I got fired for telling this person off. Didnt use any profanity. I just gave them my thoughts. Told this stupid woman that I really didnt give a damn about you trying to control me. A few days later I got fired because apparently I dont have any friends at the workplace and that woman happens to have a LOT of friends at the workplace.



It pisses me off and I understand your situation. They try to control you like this and when you stand up for yourself and make them realize they cant control you then they find stupid little reasons to get you fired. Im sure they will come up with something eventually.



I think he should start looking for a different job so that he can quit the job while you tell this woman to mind her own Frigwgihjaweligjain business!!!!

How do I approach this without looking uncooperative?

I have a coworker who does not like me. It's not the other way around. People have told me that she's had several problems with other coworker throughout the year. It's been a continuous issue with this particular person. I'm not sure why she doesn檛 care for me but it's gotten so ridiculous that she almost daily complains about me to my supervisor and when I explain why I handled a situation in the way I did, 99% of the time it's obvious that she's just creating drama. I work in a very professional environment and for the most part ignore her rants. I do my job and get along with everyone else. In the morning I say good morning to her despite her everyday ignoring me. I can honestly say I've done nothing to her. Other people have suggested a possible emotional problem since this has been an issue with other people as well. They want me to have a sit down with her and get our feelings out. I think this is ridiculous. How do I approach this without looking uncooperative?How do I approach this without looking uncooperative?
Ignore her. Every time she complains to your supervisor and you supervisor asks you to explain, write a memo to your supervisor saying that she is continually distrating you from getting your work done by making false claims that you are then required to explain. Ask your supervisor to do something to put an end to her false charges--for example, ask you supervisor to ask this co-worker to start writing all of her complaints and providing evidence in her memos.



This is your supervisor's problem--it diverts workers energy from doing the job.



Good luck.How do I approach this without looking uncooperative?
Try a hitman, they're professional, sometimes.
Have you gone to HR? Try to start logging the events, times, etc.
I think this airing out session may be a good idea. You will have the final say so, but if it were me, I take this opportunity to possibly settle things.
I say continue doing what you are doing. It is obvious that she is the one with the problem and I am assuming management is aware of this. I know it makes for a difficult day. Hang in there. I commend you for dealing with this so diplomatically
tell her to look in the mirror and complain to herself and tell her to think about why shes doing it
Ask the annoying ***** for lunch then say what up's with you? Do you just like being miserable and give other people problems or maybe she just hasn't got laid ina while!
i actually agree...thats probably the best way to do it...unless you want the behavior to continue..peer counseling is a good solution...have a 3rd party that can act as a mediator and help you guys express your feelings...it would be a good idea, just try it...maybe she just feels misunderstood...who knows...sit down with her, have a heart to heart, or even take her out to lunch or something, somewhere, where she won't feel intimidated...good luck
I worked with a person like that. She like power. If your doing your job all should be great. What your doing is what I would do. ';Kill her with kindness'; the saying goes. She'll look bad doing what she doing if you never act like her. Don't talk bad about her and do your job, your a professional. You can do it.
I think your co-workers are right. I think you should sit down with her, but not alone. It needs to be mediated by a third party, ideally someone with mediation skills, but if that's not available, an HR representative or even your boss (or SEVERAL co-workers--if you go with co-workers, you need to take 2 or 3 as witnesses to the conversation and to help keep it moving forward. They should NOT side with either of you though) and whichever of those resources is available to you, you should do it. Avoid accusing her of emotional problems, but you can address the pattern. She continues to act this way because she is allowed to. The correct way to deal with interpersonal issues of any kind is to confront the problem in a gentle way.
Do the sit down and explain that not everyone gets along with the people they work with but as long as you are coworkers you would like to keep it on a professional working basis and leave any personal feelings that her or you might have out of it. Explain that you have no harsh feelings and was wondering why this has to be a drama at work.
The sad thing about a sit in is nothing will smooth things over. They just don't like you. Some people are just as*holes and that is just how they are. No amount of sit ins or smooth overs are going to work. Just keep a positive attitude, and continue to do your job professionally. If it becomes a problem within the office, then your manager should make the decision based on merit if that person is in need of being removed. I would not do the sit in, in my opinion. I would just let my work speak for itself.
I know it feels that her intentions are directly upon you. It sounds more like she uses people as her whipping posts. She is obviously under a lot of stress either from her work there or from home. Being compassionate is hard sometimes especially when you have taken so many hits, but try to realize that it likely has nothing to do with you really. Instead of just being polite and tip toeing around her. Try to be a friend. Someone who really cares. Instead of sparring out the anger points...go to her and say something like...

Look...I know you and I have not really been getting along very well. I want you to know though that I choose not to take it personally. I realize that you have a lot on you and I would prefer not to be your opponent. I want to know if there is anything I can do to help ease your stress. Would you like to have lunch? I'm concerned for you and see that you are going through something right now. I want to help.

In many cases...a person who is experiencing something difficult will break down at this kindness. They need somewhere inside to reach out and for someone to listen and care. It is so difficult for that to occur in the workplace however because it is drilled into our heads that we aren't suppose to be friends or bring anything from home into work. We forget how to be human and care for one another sometimes. It is my intuition that you will get a lot more accomplished through loving communication with this person.
Gather the people that HAVE had problems with her, and either sign a letter acknowledging/witnessing each other's issues with this particular co-worker and address it to HR, or simply make an appt as a group with your HR representative and talk this out with HR first. Then HR should approach this co-worker and address these wide concerns, if you sit down w/her face-to-face it will appear in HR terms as you being the problem, and not the other way around.

Advice on getting an older dog to get along with a younger dog.?

I have a deaf 13 year old Shetland Sheepdog. 3 months ago I adopted a coworkers 6 year old collie-mix. For the first few months they got along fine, the older one basicly established herself as alpha and proceded to ignore the new dog. Luckly the younger dog, despite being part collie, is very submissive and not hyperactive. I alway feed and greet the older dog first to keep it clear she is alpha. Unfortunately the older dog has recently started snaping, unprovoked at the yonger. At this point my other dog has not retailiated but I'm really not sure how to handle this situation. The older dog has never been agressive in the past put between loosing her hearing, arthritis and the fact that her eyesight is starting to go I can see why her personality is changing. Right now I smack her snout when she snarls and tell the pet the other dog and tell her shes a good girl to reenforce her good behavior of not snarling back. So far this aproach has not really worked. They have not actually fought yet but I would apreciate any advice on how I shold handle this situation.Advice on getting an older dog to get along with a younger dog.?
If you ask me, the older dog is getting nervous about losing her eyesight and hearing so she is making sure the younger one won't attack her or try to become the leader.

Or it could just be crabbiness that comes with old age. Sometimes.Advice on getting an older dog to get along with a younger dog.?
Dogs are much less likely to behave in a dominant or aggressive manner if they first meet on neutral territory. Have your dogs meet initially at a local dog park or a fenced in friend檚 yard. Let them play together and watch how they interact. Praise them both for good behavior.



When the two dogs are interacting in a friendly manner, speak soothingly and positively to them to reinforce their positive interaction. Your goal should be to make both dogs feel good when they檙e in each others presence.



When a new dog is introduced into the household, attention can sometimes be directed towards the new family member making your old dog feel left out. Give your original dog the same amount of attention and time that he received prior to the new dog being introduced.



Don檛 force the new dog to share a feeding bowl, water bowl, bed, or dog house with your original dog. Make sure each dog has his own supplies. Sharing food and water bowls can create unnecessary friction between the two dogs.



Allow the dogs to determine their own pack order. Once a pack order has been established, reinforce it as much as possible. The dog higher in the pack should be fed first and given treats before the second dog. Don檛 adopt a sympathetic demeanor towards the underdog as this can destroy pack unity and potentially cause a dog fight.



When you introduce a new dog into your household, some initial friction is to be expected trance. You can also break up a fight with a bucket of cold water poured on the heads of both dogs.



Bringing a new dog into the household requires a period of adjustment for both humans and animals but with a little patience and caution it can be the beginnings of a wonderful new relationship.

A subordinate is not open to change and under some stress. How to manage his stress?

Allan Daniel was a bright coworker till he realized that his project has been shelved. He had been with the project since the last 2 years and had been the best performer in the team several times. He has now been moved to a different project and he seems completely unhappy about it . He says he does not feel confident anymore and does do even get along too well with his new colleagues. Could you help Allan identify his stressors? What action plan could you draw up for him to help him get back to his original self?A subordinate is not open to change and under some stress. How to manage his stress?
I think that Allan feels very hurt after working on a project for 2 years. If you appreciate his work, why don't you put him back with his old colleagues and give him a project that is at least similar to what he was doing. This is a good way of losing a good employee. I think that you should talk to him and at least promise him a better project and a return to his group after he finishes this project. Also, you could take one of his old colleagues and ask to help Allen to finish this project. He doesn't deserve this, after he worked so hardA subordinate is not open to change and under some stress. How to manage his stress?
Allan is his stressors. He needs to play through the pain and suck it up. So if he doesn't get his way Allan doesn't want to play anymore? Welcome to adulthood.



His lack of confidence and problems with co-workers are self inflicted. Sounds as if he moved into the new project with an attitude toward it and the new co-workers. Tell him to snap out of his funk or start searching for another gig!
It is difficult to keep a ';stiff upper lip'; when you feel marginalized at your job. Doing a lot of work on a project that gets ';canned'; can make you feel as though your work doesn't matter.



Are there ways that you can reassure him that shelving the project had absolutely nothing to do with him? It sounds like - whether he can tell you this or not - he is craving some validation in his work performance. Is there some reward you can bestow upon him - a day off, recognition in a department meeting, etc. - that has to do with his work ethic and things he regularly does well? Since he doesn't have the completion of a longstanding project to boost his esteem, perhaps you can find other alternative ways to provide him that validation he seeks.



I sure hope that this is helpful!



Phyllis R. Neill, www.shementor.com

I don't like some of my coworkers and I know those same probably don't care for me two faced,what do you do?

Im type of person that wants to get along with all, and it bothers me when people talk behind my back and joke around but you know its out of spite and its played off as jokes. Now my coworkers also think they know me which the dont theyve known me less than 7 months and only at work IV nevedr really hung out and they dont know all about me yet they have their opinions of me and that bothers me that they view me in certain ways. This boils my blood becasue I would hate for people to talk behind my back and make opinions and criticisms to those that do not know me. How would you handle working with people like this and how should I view life and work intertwined?I don't like some of my coworkers and I know those same probably don't care for me two faced,what do you do?
keep your chin up... they have nothing better to do and they are to envious probably and only talk of their own faults by pointing at someone else.. wherever u go there will always be bad apples.. i would not associate with those people.. no trust.. take care.. you are letting them get the best of you by your reaction.. if u show them what they say don't meen a dang thing to ya.. they will eventually stop..I don't like some of my coworkers and I know those same probably don't care for me two faced,what do you do?
Just stick to your principles and moral values and eventually they will come to respect you. Dont lower yourself to their catty standards, be better than they are

Job related question?

You work in a team and a coworker refuses to do part of the assigned work. How effective or ineffective would it be to confront the coworker and demand that he does his part.

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective



You and a coworker have great difficulty getting along with each other. How effective or ineffective would it be to avoid this coworker?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective



You work as part of a team. Due to a lack of communication, effort has been wasted and some work has been left undone. How effective or ineffective would it be to do most of the work yourself to avoid mistakes.

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective



Some coworkers are very critical of other coworkers and gossip about other employees. How effective or ineffective would it be to threaten to penalize employees caught gossiping?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective



A coworker is arriving late every day causing you to have much more work to do. How effective or ineffective would it be to buy the coworker an alarm clock and leave it in his locker.

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective



Job related question?
Concentrate on doing your job and excel at it. If a co-worker is not doing their job they will eventually be fired for lack of performance. Tell your boss about your concerns.Job related question?
idk



get a life
These are common sense questions. Please answer them with some common.

advice on what should i do

web development

Help! I had a violent dispute with two coworkers! Was I wrong?

I have been working for the city in their Public Works Department. My division is devided up into groups of people who get along. Since i've been there, i've worked my butt off and I have had several coworkers literally tell me I should go back to my old job, that i'm a horrible worker, that I should learn how to use a shovel, and try to get me fired behind my back. On top of that, one coworker is always talking down to me and demanding I do things in a very rude way and he does it constantly. Today, he and another guy I don't get along with came up and started talking down to me again and I snapped. I told them off, told them I was sick and tired of their bull**** and them disrespecting me, and told them to basically *** off. Shortly after, in the locker room, I got in yet another argument with one of the guys that ended the same way. I feel bad for losing my composure, but i've been dealing with this for weeks and they do this to a lot of my other coworkers that are good workers.Help! I had a violent dispute with two coworkers! Was I wrong?
I bet if you read the employment manual given to you by your Human Resources Manager, you might find out that could be grounds for termination.



Honestly... why did you not bring this up with your immediate supervisor? That's one of his responsibilities, to help maintain law and order. If he's one of ';them';, then you proceed directly to the HR manager. Go to the Mayor if you're still not satisfied.



If you are in a union, you should have brought this to your union steward's attention, too.Help! I had a violent dispute with two coworkers! Was I wrong?
Good for you! No one should sit and bear crap from these people, even if you aren't working your butt off. Really, you did the right thing even if you get fired or something. This is not the right way to work!
It sounds like a no win situation for anyone who goes up against them. Blood is thicker than water, you know. You are wise to look for employment elsewhere. They probably behave like that because they know they can get away with it.
document as much as you can against them. dates, times, witnessess, anything that was said or done, etc. It could come back on them as workplace violence/harassment. And if a member of management knew this was going on and failed to act, He could face major problems too
No - you weren't wrong. No one should have to put up with being intimidated at work. You stood up for yourself. Good for you!



I think you would have preferred to handle it with less anger - and you will if something like this happens again. But it sounds like you were pushed and pushed until you couldn't take it anymore. Everyone has a breaking point. Don't be so hard on yourself. You just used words - not your fists. That's restraint.



I hope you find a great new job soon!

I am Applying for Six Flags and these questions stumped me so can you help me i will vote you for my best anse?

You work in a team and a coworker refuses to do part of the assigned work. How effective or ineffective would it be to confront the coworker and demand that he does his part?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*You and a coworker have great difficulty getting along with each other. How effective or ineffective would it be to avoid this coworker?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*You work as part of a team. Due to a lack of communication, effort has been wasted and some work has been left undone. How effective or ineffective would it be to do most of the work yourself to avoid mistakes?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*Some coworkers are very critical of other coworkers and gossip about other employees. How effective or ineffective would it be to threaten to penalize employees caught gossiping?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*A coworker is arriving late every day causing you to have much more work to do. How effective or ineffective would it be to buy the coworker an alarm clock and leave it in his locker?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*A coworker has personal problems and the coworker's job performance is becoming unacceptable. How effective or ineffective would it be to discuss the situation with your supervisor?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*You have angered a coworker due to your behavior that you have subsequently realized was very rude. Although you are now behaving appropriately around the coworker, the damage is done and the coworker remains angry. This situation is hurting the work performance of the team. How effective or ineffective would it be to find another team for which to work?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*A coworker, who was to assist you with an assignment, did not assist you, which left you to perform all the work by yourself. How effective or ineffective would it be to complete half of the assignment and leave the rest for the coworker?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very Effective

*You and your coworkers had to complete a large volume of work in a short time. Everyone is upset and talked to the supervisor about the situation. The supervisor said he could not do anything to help. How effective or ineffective would it be to offer to try to complete the work without saying anything about it?

Very Ineffective

Ineffective

Effective

Very EffectiveI am Applying for Six Flags and these questions stumped me so can you help me i will vote you for my best anse?
effective,Ineffective,?Effective,Ineffec?, Very Ineffective,Effective, Effective, Very Ineffective,Effective



you do realize that these questions are not right and wrong questions. It is just a way for them to find out how to work with you. To get your opinions on stuff and then get you to that work environment that best suits you. they know you aren't going to say ';Very Effective'; to this Q-A coworker, who was to assist you with an assignment, did not assist you, which left you to perform all the work by yourself. How effective or ineffective would it be to complete half of the assignment and leave the rest for the coworker? ...you know what I mean.

How is best to deal with a coworker who behaves fakely in front of the manager and never listens to you when?

you're the one training her? I try to be nice, I try to be fun and friendly. She has just been not paying attention, rude, cursed at me, not do things coz she didn't want to...even though we could get fired, she takes advantage of the manager leaving all the time, etc. I just need to get along with her, please, now that I see how she is and my feelings are hurt, and I am changed in the manager's eyes now coz of this woman saying I didn't tell her things that I did tell her...multiple times. Please help with good ideas.How is best to deal with a coworker who behaves fakely in front of the manager and never listens to you when?
I have 11 years of Management experience with a large distribution company of 1200 Employees and I maxed at 55 direct reports. I can tell you that issues like this should not be overlooked because it ultimately costs the company money! I’m sure your Manager would be interested in this situation and he/she would want this resolved ASAP. Of course we must consider if this has gotten out of hand and what you have or have not done to get this situation where it is today. If I were you I would approach the situation in this fashion (within the next week):



1.Document all of the issues you stated above with as much detail as possible. Basically, get your facts together and focus on what went wrong with the training. Directly deal with your hand in the situation, did you start your relationship off on the wrong foot with the trainee by lack of professionalism? This engulfs things like bad mouthing the company and/or Manager (whether you meant it or not), using leniency with the trainee which allows them to control the environment which causes you to lose your control and focus on your training responsibility, not taking things seriously because you wanted to be liked which causes the trainee to lose respect for you, etc. (not sure if this applies)



2.Leave a message with your Manager stating that you need to schedule a meeting with him/her to discuss your (trainee) progress and concerns. Schedule your appointment later in the week after you complete step 3.



3.Prior to the meeting with your manager, have a serious and professional conversation with the trainee. Regain control over the environment and let her know that you will be discussing her training progress with the Manager this week. Explain your training responsibility and loosely cover the details that are hindering you, Let her know that you both must at this point, set aside the fun and games and get focused on her training. Direct the conversation in a manner that she will feel accountable for her actions going forward and she will take you seriously.



4.Approach your scheduled meeting with your Manager by explaining that you would like to discuss the trainee’s progress. There should be no need to go into a lot of detail (maintain your integrity) but discuss the fact that you were having issues with (trainee) focusing on her training, which has resulted in her inability to grasp various items that you have covered. Briefly discuss your conversation with (trainee) and the fact that you explained the importance of your responsibility and desire to effectively train her. Let your Manager know that you are not sure how well she received your message and just wanted to prepare him/her for any issue that may result from this conversation.



I do hope that your Manager has an open door policy that makes him/her available for such concerns now or in the future.



Stay focused!



Based on the “Additional Details” you added, it sounds as if she may be somewhat intimidated by you which is a personal conflict. If this is the case, you will have to worry more about the work at hand and focus less on the “personal relationship”. You can continue to be friendly (be yourself) but do not get absorbed in it. Try these tactics:



1. Cross your T’s and dot your I’s!



2. Let your manager know that you plan to keep an objective and goal oriented training journal documenting your trainee’s progress and weakness.



3. With the Training Journal in hand, periodically go through the training as a whole with the trainee discussing her overall knowledge with various job duties/functions; in order to create accountability have her “sign off” on areas she feels competent in.



This will lessen her efforts in undermining you.



It always helps to have a journal when issues like this arise and a Manager must get involved. You will prove that you have attempted to train her completely and the results of that will be displayed. In a professional manner, always keep your Manager informed of your training strategy and seek advice when needed. If your Manager ultimately must address the trainee, he/she will appreciate the training journal in his/her effort to confront the matter. Using these tactics will help the Manager to see through the smoke screen and you will uphold your position in the highest regard.

Remember you cannot always be friends with everyone; in this case you must work to get the respect you deserve in your position with the company and complete your assigned task.



Best wishes and have a Merry Christmas!How is best to deal with a coworker who behaves fakely in front of the manager and never listens to you when?
Sounds like she is trying to undermine your ability....in an attempt to take your position. Stand your ground...she may even try to mess around with your boss. Not to worry she is at a lost if you train her to be the best and she failed the test when you have moved on.
I would talk to your manager, and tell her what is going on. She should believe you over her. You have been there alot longer then she has.
I think that you should pull the manager aside and say ';this girl needs to be trained by some one else. Our personalities make it so that she does not want to learn anything from me. I have tried but she looks down on my abilities and I think that it is going to make it bad for our company when she tries to go out on her own, and personally, I don't know what you saw in her when you hired her, but she may not be all that you think she is.'; And since your manager believed enough in you to choose you to train her, then they must value what you think to some degree...
If you are the one training her, I guess you have training manual for her to read. You can assign small jobs to her and let her display her ignorance. First time, give her a chance by sending her an email to explain to her what are the errors and where to refer to in th manual for the right answers. 2nd time, send her a stern warning. 3rd time, send her a warning and copy the manager.



She can attempt to do all the rights things when the manager is around but luck cannot be always with her. If she is abusive, there is no need to tolerant her. If your manager is going to believe what she says and put the blame on you only, is it worthwhile working for him?? You don't need to suffer.
It's surprising that she hasn't gotten fired yet! I would first try to talk to your coworker. Tell her that her office etiquette is off balance, and believe it or not, she still has a job that she needs to learn how to do. If after you talk to her she still continues to be rude, etc., I would take the matter up with your manager. Have a private meeting with your manager and tell her that your coworker has not been completing her duties and that you've tried talking to her. Your manager should take immediate action and she should have a serious talk with your coworker. Good luck!
You know, this is not worthy of your fretting and stressing over. This woman has no integrity. You do. I would like to suggest that you might want to use some Emotional Freedom 'meridian tapping' to free yourself of the negative emotions from the past that are triggered by this woman's trickiness. This is a fine, easily understood and applied technique. If you feel like you need some help from a practitioner, they are listed on the site (often psychologists). If you are at a stage in your life where you want to break through the blocks and really make significant changes I would like to direct you to the Emotional Freedom Technique--EFT --site where you can download the free Get Started Package at http://tinyurl.com/yh5zhu, or if you want to dive in right away by purchasing the inexpensive instructional DVDsn click here%26gt;%26gt;http://tinyurl.com/ycwle8 Read the testimonials on

this site and you will know how effective this energy therapy is.



Don't get pulled into the Turkeys' Barn--Soar on Eagles' Wings!



Cynthia Zirkwitz

Certified Comprehensive Coach

Moderator for My Monday Miracles

http://ca.groups.yahoo.com/group/My_Mond…
You didn't say how big the company is.



If you don't feel comfortable talking to your manager about it, you need to find someone else who trusts you enough to know the difference between truth and gossip. If the company you work for is large enough, it should have a human resources (HR) department (or a least one HR representative depending on the size of the company). An HR person should be able to help with your situation.



If you don't have an HR rep. or dept., you may just have to bite the bullet and talk to the manager about it.



Talk to someone as soon as possible. This situation could cause you stress that could affect your job performance. It may be uncomfortable to talk about, but you'll feel better once you've done all you can.



DON'T badmouth the employee if you have to talk directly to a manager because the manager could end up respecting you less. If you talk to an HR person it's supposed to be more confidential (unless someone's committing a crime), so you should be able to say what you want. Try to point out how she acts unprofessionally and it's distracting (and talk about when she was rude or cursing at you) rather than saying she's fake. Always try to stay as professional as possible when talking about her.



DON'T try to sabotage her to make her look incompetent because it could backfire badly. The manager may just say you didn't train her well enough.



At my job I have to make sure people are informed of changes. Even if someone sits right next to me, I send an email to inform of important rules or changes. Keep all your sent email and with problem people try to get read receipts (proof that they saw the email). This way, if she says that she was never informed, you can just pull up the email and say, ';I sent it to you last Monday (or whatever).';

How do you deal with a difficult coworker?

How do you deal with a difficult coworker?



I have a coworker who has suddenly stopped all communication with me. I did nothing other than normal, and she used to make small talk with me, and most importantly, communicate about work related things. Now, nothing. If she needs to communicate, she goes through another coworker or plasters post its all over everything. Today I said hi to her and she stared right through me! I don't even know what I did wrong. We work in a small office and we all get along- for the most part. She is the exception .She stopped talking to one of the maintenance guys because he gave her a compliment on her hair and now she won't talk to him at all. How do I handle this without taking it personally or letting it stress me out (like it has been doing)?How do you deal with a difficult coworker?
Ask yourself a couple of questions first. One, did you perhaps say or do something to offend her? It seems that when a maintenance guy gave her a compliment, she must have felt that it crossed the line and now avoids contact with him for fear of something else happening. If you don't think you did anything or said anything to offend her, how soon ago was it that her behavior changed? Maybe she heard some gossip and is acting on that.



Whatever it is, you need to communicate this in a forward fashion with her. Say ';hey you know we used to communicate and now we haven't even talked in a while-- did I do or say something? Because if I did, I'm sorry it made you mad/upset/uncomfortable.'; Usually when you own up to what you did, it allows the other person to open up to what is bothering them, even if you personally feel that you did nothing wrong.How do you deal with a difficult coworker?
The best policy is to give her some distance. She will get over it or she won't, at this point it's out of your control. If it becomes a problem you may want to have a quick chat with your boss. I would give it alot of time before I did that if I were you though.
Get two lunches (a kind you know she likes) and bring them in. Let her know that you brought lunch %26amp; you'd like to have lunch with her.



When you're sitting down, approach it politely %26amp; say something along the lines of, ';we used to make small talk while we were working. I miss that %26amp; was wondering if I did anything that irritated you that changed it.'; If you put it like that, she will be less likely to be defensive %26amp; more likely to tell you what's eating her. It could be nothing you've done %26amp; just something that's going on in her personal life. You might have done or said something that didn't sit well with her and you didn't even realize it. It might be (I had a situation like this) that someone else at work is filling her head with lies about something you said or did %26amp; she believes it's true.



When she tells you what's up, don't get defensive, but work to fix it. Even if it was unintentional or if she's just being way oversensitive...don't be defensive %26amp; say something like, ';wow, I didn't realize that happened/I did/said that/whatever. I'm sorry that you were hurt by that.'; Saying you're sorry she was hurt still gives an apology, but allows you to not take sole responsibility for what's going on.



If you approach it like this, you might mend whatever fence is broken %26amp; have a great relationship.
These cases are the most difficult ones. If you ask what is going on, the other person probably wouldn't tell the truth anyway.



It might be a case of so called professional jealousy, which then ends up with devious tricks sabotaging your work or malicious gossip behind your back. Not a very good situation on the long run.



I've been through something like this myself. I got hired as the motor pool mechanic, replacing one of the drivers who was placed in the position (but couldn't do the job) to replace the mechanic who had retired. He hated me from day one, because he thought I stole his job, as I found out later.

If it wouldn't have been me then it would have been somebody else.

There is usually nothing that can be done to clear such a situation, even management tried to solve this crisis by getting us all together, asking everybody what is going on, everybody denied that there was anything going on.



Not even an hour later I came into the shop and the drivers were standing in a corner debating with each other, they didn't hear me coming in but I clearly heard one say:

';We got to get rid of this guy, he can do everything himself, he doesn't need us';. Well so what, it wasn't their job in the first place. On the long run this costs too many nerves, after 3 years I walked away from this nonsense.
If the person, she is going through to communicate with you is someone you know and trust, you could try asking that person for info on what went wrong. Play this one safe though. You never know if this person is some kind of time bomb. Stay away from questionable situations where this person could file a grievance against you.

My boss asked me to hold a meeting....?

my bonus is based on the success of this meeting.

Coworkers recently slacking and not getting along with each other. I am supposed to motivate them to work together and quit slacking. BUT i don't want the meeting to be a ***** session. How do I motivate them?My boss asked me to hold a meeting....?
Sassy this is hard as hell to do.



I have a MBA in organizational behavior/development and leadership training and I can tell you right now that what was asked of you cannot be done over night. My dual degree deals with team-building and team dynamics and this kind of thing should never have been asked of you. I don檛 know what field you are in but even in the best environments it takes months and even years before some teams really come together. I would ask that you give me more specifics on just what your problems are. In the mean time, though I hate this style of team-building, I would recommend using this team-building guide:

Lessons From Geese

Editor's Note: ';Lessons from Geese'; was transcribed from a speech given by Angeles Arrien at the 1991 Organizational Development Network and was based on the work of Milton Olson. It circulated to Outward Bound staff throughout the United States. We share it here with the alumni community hoping that we can all learn these lessons.

FACT 1:

As each goose flaps its wings it creates an ';uplift'; for the birds that follow. By flying in a ';V'; formation, the whole flock adds 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew alone.

LESSON:

People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are traveling on the thrust of one another.

FACT 2:

When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of flying alone. It quickly moves back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front of it.

LESSON:

If we have as much sense as a goose we stay in formation with those headed where we want to go. We are willing to accept their help and give our help to others.

FACT 3:

When the lead goose tires, it rotates back into formation and another goose flies to the point position.

LESSON:

It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership. As with geese, people are interdependent on each other's skills, capabilities and unique arrangements of gifts, talents or resources.

FACT 4:

The geese flying in formation honk to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.

LESSON:

We need to make sure our honking is encouraging. In groups where there is encouragement, the production is much greater. The power of encouragement (to stand by one's heart or core values and encourage the heart and core of others) is the quality of honking we seek.

FACT 5:

When a goose gets sick, wounded or shot down, two geese drop out of formation and follow it to help and protect it. They stay with it until it dies or is able to fly again. Then, they launch out with another formation or catch up with the flock.

LESSON:

If we have as much sense as geese, we will stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we are strong.My boss asked me to hold a meeting....?
tell em do it our their be some cuts and heads will role no harm in a lil white lie
You need to give them a incentive. IF you go in there with negative attitude, that's how they will respond. Give the pep talk on team players, how the company is a team not individual



The meeting will be BS to those who don't care. You can give the ';those not meeting the team player status will be written up'; as a last resort.





I'm assuming you are in retail....



GOOD LUCK!
professionally Learntosucceed.biz is a great web site for career advice. I found them extremely helpful in getting a job and advancing my career. They cover topics like what you describe. They teach you to manage, lead, communicate professionally so you can stand out from your peers. For the price of a dummies book, you get their cd-rom and access to live phone advice. I still use them and I have been very fortunate in my career so far.

I credit Learntosucceed.biz with helping me make good moves.

Good Luck
Send an email to the group members and announce the meeting. Ask each one to respond with the most and least recognizable work characteristics within your area. You could schedule one of each type and everybody would have a general idea of what to expect. Also, this would avoid polarizing comparisons such as ';best'; and ';worst';. Good Luck.

How to deal with an incredibly obnoxious coworker?

I work in a restaurant and all of us get along very well for the most part.



However, there is this one that terrorizes me nonstop. I swear, this girl must have been raised by wolves. She has absolutely no manners whatsoever. Everyone finds her obnoxious, but I'm usually the one that she targets. She'll threaten me and push me or shoot dirty looks at me while walking by. Everyone else notices it too. She always tries to tell me how to do my job (I've worked there 2 years and know what I'm doing).



Today the minute I walked through the door she started screaming at me and threatening me, accusing me of helping other servers steal her pens (which I don't). I got so angry that I started crying (and I NEVER cry in public) and had to run to the bathroom and try to pull myself together.



I have less than two months left here (then I go to college), but I don't know if I can take much more of her before I flip out and quit.How to deal with an incredibly obnoxious coworker?
Hello. I've had the pleasure of dealing with very negative people at work, and it certainly isn't easy. What I can suggest is that you tell your boss about what's been happening to you (there's usually more than one boss you can go to in the restaurant business - the restaurant owner, the manager, the assistant manager, etc). Hopefully, at least one of them will be sympathetic to your complaint. Also, if and when you get harrassed in the future by this person, immediately go to your boss and tell him or her what just happened. Also, don't take being shoved by this co-worker. Shove back and threaten to sue her....As an aside, if you act confident, people will be less likely to treat you in a bad way (I've learned that lesson the hard way)....Take care.How to deal with an incredibly obnoxious coworker?
get one of dem bic pens aright! chew up some paper stick the shitz in the hole and blow hard on that mofo cource that when da ****** has her back turned LOL straight up shitz or get some of them brass knuckles and tame her azz.....much luv
Have you talked to your manager yet? And do customers ever complain about her?



If you can't reach your manager, try sitting down with her and talking to her one on one and if you can't do that, get one of your other co-workers to go with you to talk to her. You don't want to tell your co-worker to tell her your complaints because then she'll come to you and most likely threaten you again.



But if you can talk to your manager, tell him or her that no one can work well with this girl and she repeatedly harasses you.



p.s. if she shoves you don't shove back and if she screams at you dont scream back...that will just escalate things and probably turn into something messy.



Hope you get this resolved!
She obviously is a bully and she sees that you are weak so she goes after you. Next time go to head boss and report her antics before she gets you in trouble somehow. You also need to join a gym and take up kickboxing to relieve that stress. It's a shame no other coworkers will back you up and go to head boss with you to report this bully.
I have an evil neighbor. Ok so she's probably not actually evil but she acts like it. Honestly I think she's just lonely or mentall ill or both, but she harasses me no end, and at times has really made me very angry. What I did was I googled all kinds of pranks or other types of 'revenge' that are both safe and legal (there are actually websites devoted to this, lol). I never ended up doing any of it, but it was good therapy to read it and laugh and 'imagine' doing it to my psycho neighbor. She still bugs me, but I know that like your own evil chick, she will be out of my life soon enough and I'll never see her again. Just focus on that. :)

In the meantime if she does something that is actually against your workplace's policy you should report her. Or just avoid her as much as you can. When she gets stupid with you (ie, telling you how to do your job) just laugh at her, or be sarcastic like ';really? you put the silverware INSIDE the napkin? Holy ****, why didn't I think of that! good thing you're around...'; lol

good luck ;)
Next time she screamed, you scream louder! Bullies will back off when their target speak up! Tell her to knock it off!
You really need to tell your manager. He could very well ignore the obnoxious comments, but stress that she has physically pushed you. He/she cannot ignore anything resembling violence. If she gets physical again, call the police.

short hair cut

Is it ok to put my quilt in the dryer

How do i make my coworker stop being such a female dog?

my coworker is SUCH a b**tch. i am on the edge. i think im developing an ulcer. i screwed up slightly a couple of times because shes so pushy she makes me anxious. couple of weeks later i do excellent work for my other coworkers shes the only one tha ti have problems with. so im the only artist in the department for like 6 people and i get along great with everyone but her. im 27 yo young mommy shes a 50 something beotch no kids and every single thing i do she says i dont do right even if i am right she never apologizes even once 'on accident' ruined my one personal belonging there. im freaking out right now i want to quit because of her she gossips and is trying to make me fail. everything i do she tells my boss about. shes the 2nd (lower) asst. director and every time we argue she throws me under a bus and says its my fault wont let me get a word in edgewise. no matter what i do now im shaking and scared. help me please? thanks.How do i make my coworker stop being such a female dog?
it's called jealousy . your a good worker and she's afraid you'll take her job try your best to ignore her and keep being nice it will drive her nuts we have tramps like that at all jobs dont give her the satisfaction of quiting .if she knows she's getting to you she wont stop kind of like a bully at school . if anything talk to your boss in private or ask her whats her problem good luck hun i know how work place problems can be .How do i make my coworker stop being such a female dog?
This isn't healthy, I rarely say this, but yell at her.

Loudly, just say'; Stop it, Right now, I'm not going to take it anymore, you are unreasonable. When you can talk to me as a coworker we can resume, until then get yourself together and don't say another word.'; Then walk away. You must learn to stand up for yourself even with bitches. You are the one with the power to stop her, that you haven't means you gave that power over to her. Take it back. You have nothing to lose, if you don't take charge you will lose your health, that's harder to get than another job, which you will have to do if you continue to let her walk all over you.
stop reacting to her behavior and send her blessings. sooner or later the positive energy will infect her.
Hi,



First don't yell at her. It would be grounds for you getting fired.



Always be nice to her, it will drive her crazy and it won't come back on you later.



Make a record of when she complains of your work or makes comments about you. Dates and times with descriptions of what was going on.



Now there is four ways to use that information.



One would be to go to her with it and calmly point out to her what she is doing. (I think it probably won't work.)



Two, go to her boss and tell them. (This could be seen as insubordination too)



Three, contact a lawyer and see if you have grounds for a harassment suit.



Four, When it gets to the point that you can't stand it any longer, quit and give the log to her boss along with the reason why you are quitting. Then leave and don't look back.



Good Luck.



TMD
Put a can of dog food on her table when she is not looking.



Seriously, analyze and evaluate the situation. Be honest with yourself. Are you working below par or is your boss unfair? If he is the latter, there is no reason why you should continue working for that business. Fire him! Ask for an exit interview and spill the beans on your boss. You are just wasting your time.



A good boss will always try to develop good people without being rude and dictatorial. Conversely, if your work is below par and has no possibility of ever improving a good boss will terminate your services immediately.



Peace and every blessing!

How do you stop looking to others for reassurance and advice?

Im sure I will get some smart a** remarks here, but this is a real problem for me. In almost every area of my life I ask for advice from (parents, husband, coworkers, look online) before making big decisions. I have a huge decision to make %26amp; Im afraid if its the wrong one I will never forgive myself. I also tend to go along with whatever anyone else wants to do so I dont upset anyone. UGH - I hate it!How do you stop looking to others for reassurance and advice?
It sounds like you lack confidence and that you worry a lot about what other people think. It's okay to seek advice, but it sounds like you do it at a higher level than most. I would seek a counselor who could help you get over this. Here's something to try...think about the last 10 or 15 decisions you made where you asked for advice...write them down. Next to it put what you thought was best before you asked anyone, and then next to that put the advice that was given to you. My guess is that you'll find they match up...that is what you thought you should do is what people then told you to do.



Perhaps, the need to please people stems from a belief that relationships are fragile and that people may just leave you if you don't go along with them. Think about times when you wanted to do something but someone else didn't go along with it...do you still like that person or would you let them go? I bet you still like them. They are the same. They will not stop loving/liking you just because you don't go along with what they want to do. My advice is to really stop and think when these situations arise. Check in with yourself ans ask, what do I want? Then, express it. You'll find people will be willing to go along with your ideas as well.



Really, though, a counselor could really help you with this...it probably wouldn't take that long. Good luck.How do you stop looking to others for reassurance and advice?
i think you need to stop talking about your problems to everyone. I personally feel if you want to share your concerns with your husband that is ok. But going to your friends or family to complain about him is not ok. My point is that getting situations or arguments validated by others is only going to lead to disaster. If you have a big decision to make, dont tell anyone at first and really think about what you want. Then when you tell someone, maybe their opinion wont matter as much because you already made up your mind

Help! Was I wrong to have this outburst toward two coworkers?

I have been working for the city in their Public Works Department. My division is devided up into groups of people who get along. Since i've been there, i've worked my butt off and I have had several coworkers literally tell me I should go back to my old job, that i'm a horrible worker, that I should learn how to use a shovel, and try to get me fired behind my back. On top of that, one coworker is always talking down to me and demanding I do things in a very rude way and he does it constantly. Today, he and another guy I don't get along with came up and started talking down to me again and I snapped. I told them off, told them I was sick and tired of their bull**** and them disrespecting me, and told them to basically *** off. Shortly after, in the locker room, I got in yet another argument with one of the guys that ended the same way. I feel bad for losing my composure, but i've been dealing with this for weeks and they do this to a lot of my other coworkers that are good workers.Help! Was I wrong to have this outburst toward two coworkers?
For this very reason, we should not bottle things up inside. However, we all have done this one time or another. They deserved what they got! You had every right to stand up for yourself. You stated you work your butt off, so it's not like you are a slacker getting upset because they are trying to get you fired.



You can change jobs but why? There are people like this everywhere. What? Give them what they want and quit? No way! They are just jealous of you. Your boss has no complaints right? I would make their day and stay there.



Blow them off. It's like a school bully. Do you leave school because of some crap talking idiots? Heck no! Stand your ground, get your days work in and forget about them!



I say, good for you!! :0) Take care! Remember trash is everywhere!!!Help! Was I wrong to have this outburst toward two coworkers?
Go get another job. Remember ';Living well is the best revenge!';
You did nothing wrong, sometimes one need to speak up and stand up for them self. You did good. never let no one do this to you. OK you say there is another job in your way, then go and take it it is better to work in peace and if your having a hard time with this low liefs, then take off.

Stay well and always try to be happy. Let those loose rs take it up With themselves.

How do i make her even more mad?

I am training to be a part time manager at my uncles subway while i begin college and do not get along with one of my coworker because she thinks I am trying to get after her boyfriend who I also work with, but Im newly engaged. Her and I had only gotten into little arguments nothing to blunt until the other day I got in her face and called her a loser and a fat ***. I mean she is like 27 years old and makes min. wage. But I called her every name in the book and have just found that I want to make her even madder. What can I do? Any Ideas?How do i make her even more mad?
What I'm wanting to know, is how you could even think you would be fit for the title of manager. What kind of woman are you anyways, my children talk better than this trash mouth.How do i make her even more mad?
You already know the answer. Seduce her man.
Grow up. For heavens' sake, you both work in the same place -- calling her a loser is like the pot calling the kettle black! And calling someone a loser and a fat a** is just plain rude.



You come across as sounding superior and snotty -- which I'm sure she's picking up on, too. Are you sure you're going into college? You sound like you just got out of middle school, ';trying to make her madder';.



When you're off to college, she'll still be there -- unless you run her off. And I'm SURE your uncle will appreciate his snotty niece running off the hired help, because help IS hard to find. Frankly, if I were your uncle, I'd fire YOUR a**.



Try acting like a grown up and a manager, instead of a 6th grader and a peon. Apologize to her for calling her names.
Why?



You are newly engaged and have a future... she isn't either. She is older than you, struggling, and she is training you... teaching you how to do her job so you can be her boss... and lets face it, you are only getting to be her boss because your Uncle owns the place.



It doesn't sound like there is a whole lot of upward mobility in her world, and you just walz in and take the one shot she has of moivng up in life, because your uncle owns the place.



Can you understand why she might not like you?



Add to this the fact she has to take your crap all day, because she doesn't have an uncle who can just give her a job, or the money to pay for college, or a way out...from what you say she NEEDS this job. She has to bite her lip and keep quite if she wants to keep her rent paid and food on the table.



I think you have made her miserable enough already. Isn't there already enough pain and suffering in the world, in her world, without you going out of your way to create more?
Let me understand this...you are training as a ';part time manager'; and this is the kind of example of professional management you are displaying...



In the real world (of working for someone other than your uncle), you and that co-worker would be fired...and without a severance package to go along with it---(I might add!)



You need to be the one to set a good example by minding your own business, not discussing personal issues in the workplace on paid company time (even if it's on your uncle's bill), and watching the kind of language you use as well towards other employees. That's setting a good example as a manager in training.



Then, when you become a ';real manager';, you can calmly discuss issues with the employee behind closed doors in an office and determine whether he or she should be fired for inappropriate behavior.



In the meantime, if I were your uncle, I would be looking at sitting you down in that hot seat and teaching you a thing or two about the proper way to handle yourself with another employee.

I cringe to think of how much your uncle may be paying you, if you criticize and publicize that your co-worker is only making minimum wage.



You may not like what I said. But I speak from years of experience. And I don't work for a family member.
SHUT YOUR MOUTH, it sounds like you have a job because your uncle owns the business, not because you have any great smarts, education, and certainly not a lot humanity, courtesy or empathy for others. Your mouthing off at the job calling her a fat *** would get you fired from many jobs, which is what you deserve here as well.

You sounds absolutely pitiful to me. I hope your finance sees this side of you before signing on the dotted line.
Let me get this straight....

You work at Subway, but only because your uncle owns it...

You are just starting college and are already engaged....

You call other people names, and I would bet you are trying to get after other ladies men.

You sound like a real winner. No doubt being a sandwich artist makes you the moody, eccentric type, but that is no excuse.

I wouldnt be a bit suprised if you are making min wage at 27, after you and the fiance pop out a few babies, you drop out of school, and he leaves you for one of those roller skate girls at sonic.
Grow up. I wouldn't want to go to any establishment where a manager behaves like it's middle school.

What's next? Wet willies?
You want to make someone feel bad because of their low paying job?Your trash for doing that.
why even bother....

you have better things to worrry about (e.g. college, activities, husband, babies)



u havent even been out your little bubble.... why get married
GROW UP~ thats all high school...drama isnt gona get you anywhere.....u are also doing almost the same thing she is ...ur could be considered a loser too for working at a subway...thats not real buisness

A coworker causing trouble, how do I make him stop without causing drama???

Ok there is this coworker that I dont particularly get along ith, hes arogant and makes mean comments. anyway, there is this outher co-worker who found out that we dont get along. hes playing games, hell come to me and tell me, ------- said this about you, then ill notice at break that hell sit with this guy and they will be talking and looking in my direction. Ive even told him, -----, I know your trying to start trouble, arent you, he just gets this big grin on his face like a little boy caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Work isnt the place for childish games. how do I make him stop and still keep a good relationship with him?A coworker causing trouble, how do I make him stop without causing drama???
Sounds as though the drama has already started.



If you want it to stop, tell the instigator to keep his comments to himself - you are not interested in gossip. Not only childish, down right stupid.



Cactus - wtf???A coworker causing trouble, how do I make him stop without causing drama???
The best thing you can do is act like he doesnt even exist.... that will really '; erk his tator'; .........
Be polite but definately do not speak to him about your other work co-worker again. Don't play the game, it can only hurt if you do.



He can't play without your help - or at the very least will find someone else to mess with.
Let him know it's bugging you. He sounds like an immature person. He likely doesn't even know how to behave when around other people. He also could be a jerk who can't handle a life without drama. I think he's not worth your notice. If you have to work with him, just don't play into his drama. The way you asked (your choice of words and phrasing) can be construed as playful and accepting of the behavior. Next time, make it clear that you don't want him coming to you with that mess again. Otherwise, he'll have no clue that you don't want him to do it.
Yes I know how to stop him! Go by a cactus and put his name under it. Sounds Crazy Right! It has worked over and over for myself and my clients. This is a tool that is used in Feng Shui.



Dawn Lane Baker

I have had three very strange dreams in the past week. Does anyone know what they mean?

the first dream was that two of my friends from work and i went to paris for a week. then the last day of the trip we decided to do london for 5 days. we called our boss and he freaked, but we went anyway. then, on the last day of the trip, i decided i wasn't going back. instead, i moved to paris. with no money, no job, and no place to stay, i was a little worried. but i met a man and he said i could stay with him. he looked familiar, and the next day I found out we was a celebrity.





the next dream is even more weird. i realized my roommate was pregnant before she did. i didn't know how to tell her, so i research what to do w/ different options. here's the weird part. for some reason i was telling her birthing rituals as options. if she put it up for adoption, there was supposed to be a white snake, but she couldn't see it, or the baby. if she kept it, the 15yr old singer justin beiber would sing at her birth. when i told her these options, she already knew she was pregnant, and just told her boyfriend and mother. in my dream, she gave birth in a field, where a bunch of pregnant women were giving birth. she didn't tell me what she wanted to do, so i brought both options. when i got there, she had her own plan. her boyfriend's friends (all pro basketball players in my dream) were playing keyboards and singing. it ended where i ruined her birth because i had justin beiber start singing and ruined the song the basketball players were singing. also, the parents are white, but the baby is black. but in the dream, the father is still the real father.





the third dream is a bit more weird. i went on a trip to dubai w/ my best friend. when we got w/ a touring group, my ex and his girlfriend were there. she said they lived there last year and my ex was going to open a casino there after he graduated from college. she kept saying really inappropriate thing about her body and their sex life. also, in the dream my ex had a speech impediment, which he doesn't in real life. then my best friend and i decided to go to the store. she was telling me of this pamphlet we got it 5th grade that, if i still had it, we could move there for 6 months for free. we ended up doing that. when we got there, my ex and his gf were still there, along with some of my coworkers. everyone ended up splitting into groups. my best friend became close w/ my ex's gf, and he was alone b/c she kept ordering him to go to things. i was w/ work friends, and one work friend got stuck in a group with these two girls she didn't like. then we went on a tour and it was beautiful. their were bright colors and elephant cages that were sequins bright pink and gold.(i have never been to dubai and know absolutely nothing about it. i had to google it to even see where it was). the dream ended w/ me appreciating the experience and being happy i was living there.



i can't stop thinking about what these all mean!! they are all so strange and different. also in the dream i make my own choices so its not like i'm watching in third person. i feel like its actually happening instead of knowing its a dream. please help! any input is greatly appreciated. sorry the descriptions are so long, i just didn't know how to shorten it up. there was so much detail within the dreams.I have had three very strange dreams in the past week. Does anyone know what they mean?
The first dream is that you want to chuck you current life and start anew in a new place

Birds

How to keep lint off comforters

How is the best way to handle office stealing?

I work at a five star hotel in a big city. I get along great with all my coworkers; even the one accused of having stolen multiple things in the past (we will call her Sally). “Sally”’s mom also works at the hotel and there have been reports of her stealing (uncaught) before too. I work at the front desk and am video recorded through my entire shift. So I thought nothing of it when I left a small sum of money (for someone’s tip) on my desk during a lunch break. When I returned, the envelope was gone. I was suspicious if perhaps Sally had taken it but I did not ask her because I didn’t want to insult her. The next day I reported it to security and they hauled me into the office to review the tapes. I told them that perhaps I’d misplaced it or “Sally” had given it to the correct employee. (Which I doubted since I hadn’t written a name on it…but I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt)



Sure enough—Sally is seen on tape twice. The first time she goes to my work station and picks up the envelope. However, I’d forgotten my phone at my desk so I came back out to get it. She sets the money down quickly and goes back to her station. (The security guard said that was suspicious) Then you see me exit the camera again. This time, she returns to pick up the envelope and is caught on the other camera tucking it into her purse. It’s on camera for goodness sake! (She must be brave or stupid) Well, since then….nothing has happened. The security officer reviewing the tapes told me that they had been waiting to catch her “in the act”. But I was never asked any questions for the report and nothing has happened in three days. I know it wasn’t much money…but shouldn’t something be happening? What do I do now? (…except the obvious of not leaving anything valuable around her, haha. So don’t get smart with meh ;)How is the best way to handle office stealing?
CCTV cameras are the only way otherwise its you word agsint there;s.



Not all CCTV equipment is created equal, in fact there are many options that offer varying performance much like the automobile industry. In the world of CCTV you can find the equivalent of a $2,000 golf cart and a $350,000 Ferrari and everything in between. Both have 4 wheels but that's where the similarities end, it’s under the hood that counts.



Just like any other consumer electronic in the end you get what you pay for. Most retailers and sellers make about a 40-80% profit margin, this is after costs like shipping and overhead. That means when you buy a product that costs $100.00 the manufacturer usually has only spent $30 to build it which simply means it’s not a good product and will probably have a working life of about 2 months. There is a reason these products are 1/10 of the price of good and reliable DVR brand names. The type of seller these products attract are online sellers (ebay) and will make profits margins as low as 2% which means they can’t afford to offer good service or allow for RMAs (returns). Cheap products are like disposable razors they are NOT designed to last for a long time and you will end up replacing them every 2 months.



Now some products can be made cheaply like ipod cases, screen protectors, and other simple products with no moving parts or electronics. DVRs need to be good quality as they run 24/7 (20X more than the average electronic device) and process anywhere from 30-480 frames per second which in a year is over 15 billion images, and a good DVR should last 3-5 years.



A true DVR and camera require years of research and development to facilitate the seamless integration of both the hardware and software. DVRs are highly complex systems that must run 24/7, processing millions of images per day and are one of the few products that can’t be made both well and cheaply. Cheap and inexpensive products like Q-see, Swan, Lorex, and other low grade DVR’s and cameras sold by Tiger Direct, Newegg, radio shack Sams Club, are not used by any security professional and should only be used by hobbyists.



I suggest you buy a PC based DVR has they have more processing power and normally have a much smaller file size and offer more features then Standalone DVR's. I know many people buy a cheap standalone DVR, only to upgrade to a PC based in 6 months especially when they are using it to manage a store remotely. Also PC based allows you to record up to 64 cameras where a standalone will have a limit of 16.



File size is crucial to streaming because most DVR’s on the market record at real time performance (30FPS per channel) so on a 4CH is trying to send 120, 8CH 240, and a 16CH 480 images per second which requires way too much bandwidth even for the most extreme internet connections.



The smaller the files size the more images are able to be sent, and the faster they can be processed improving both FPS and speed. File size is the heart of any DVR and goes far beyond just its streaming capabilities, as it also determines the recording storage time, how much you can back up at once, how fast it renders and searches video. The file size of a DVR impacts the performance of the DVR in just about every aspect from speed to longevity and is often the most important spec of any DVR.



If you are buying a DVR and streaming is a high priority I suggest you ask for a demo and connect to the DVR to make sure it is able to stream fast enough for your needs. Most DVRs say they have remote viewing but it is often too slow and laggy to be of any use especially if it is a standalone. Some good DVR brands that I recommend are Bosch, Pelco, Honeywell and Ascendent. These brands are what security professionals use, Q-see, Swan and Lorex are only used in residential applications because they are sold by Tiger Direct, Newegg, Sams Club, Costco and other retail outlets but are not used by any security professionals also their tech support rarely speaks English as their first language...



Some good CCTV brands that I recommend are Bosch, Pelco, Honeywell and Ascendent.



http://www.ascendentgroup.com (Price and performance)

www.honeywell.com

www.pelco.com/

http://www.bosch.com



Economical DVR's

Two good economical DVRs I would recommend are Ascendent's AVP-4120 DVR or Pelco's DX-400. They will allow you to view all your cameras instantly from anywhere in the world using either IE, or a client software. The AVP-4120 uses the latest H.264 codec to improve streaming and recording time, and will allow PCs and Apple computers to remotely view cameras. These are the DVRs I would recommend that are good quality and affordable from companies who stand behind there products.



Hope this Helps,How is the best way to handle office stealing?
As the person who's money was stolen, you should report this to your supervisor, and also let him/her know it was caught on tape.
That's ridiculous that your work hasn't done anything about someone blatantly stealing. You could always play detective and get a covert security camera that you can wear on you or leave around your desk - that way you have a valid copy of her stealing, and maybe you can take it past the security department not doing anything to a higher up at your company. At the very least, maybe you could bring it up in conversation and get her to admit to it as well on a security camera verbally.

How do I deal with a very annoying coworker?

I work in a very small office--only 8 people. One of my coworkers has been here for a little over a year. Sometimes we get along but most times she drives me nuts. She is probably the most fake person I have ever met. She is constantly telling me I'm beautiful and that she loves me. She does this in front of customers as well. She's been getting in trouble a lot because she doesn't complete tasks assigned by our boss. She doesn't check her email on a regular basis. When my boss is out of town, I'm left in charge and said coworker will tell our customers--she (meaning me) is the boss and that I'm a really tough boss. I just ignore her. She is so unprofessional and it's not just me saying this because my other coworkers say it too. My boss knows.



I just want suggestions on how to deal with her personality that annoys me so much I could pull my hair out.How do I deal with a very annoying coworker?
a sign of real maturity is to ........

be able to ignore itHow do I deal with a very annoying coworker?
I suggest a site called NiceCritic.com. It works and doesn't make anyone feel uncomfortable.

Report Abuse

Ignore ignore and more ignore. Put her *** on mute every chance you get.

As soon as you realize she has mental issues and that when she is spazzing out like that it probably due to her not taking her medication you will not be very concerned about the petty things she says. You'll be too busy dealing with real issues.
just propose her...she will freakout and won't bother u...
just slap that bi*ch
Have you talked to her about the way she is acting? Maybe she is in the dark. It might be worth a try. If that doesn't work, tell your boss to DO something about what your boss claims to ';know';. If that doesn't work, just ignore it or find a new job.
Honey, be fake back to her. I thought that's what everyone was supposed to do?
You should have 3 months pay saved up for times like this . you can hire a hit man for that much and be rid of the person .
ignore em
Just tell her str8 up that she is annoying you to the point that you want to pull your hair out. Maybe you and the rest of the coworkers need to gang up on her and run her out..lol.
pray for the person. God can change people's heart.
When she talks to you walk away, right away!! She`ll get the point, and if she asks tell her how you feel. Sounds like shes the type that you need to be blunt with.
I would probably adopt a mentor role and teach her how to comport herself in a professional manner. Mention things she could do to improve her work output and give a better impression to the customers. At least it would give you an outlet for your energy and might actually do some good.
Don't be passive aggressive or talk behind her back. Try to talk to her about your grievances right after her annoying actions. She probably has no idea what she is doing. Be a mentor, lead by example by being professional yourself.

Can I give every one that respond to the question below a level 5 rating?

all the responses were exactly what I ask for and they all were a 5 because no one treated the answer or me as a something dumb... I know this is a small thing but so many people can be so condescending if you don't know a thing. how are we suppose to know if we don't ask. I do know that our parents, friends that we call friends but are really not our friends,, bosses and coworker and other children along with school teachers can make us grow up to be condescending with other and i get this all the time from others on ask.com .

but thank good that there are people like you guy. thanks





Will some one please tell me what is a ';URL'; ?

I want to work at home and was ask if I had a ';URL'; to promote the company product? and for those that will think be stupid for asking ... my mother taught me that the only dump questions are the question that you are afraid to ask... hurry I need to answer back now!Can I give every one that respond to the question below a level 5 rating?
URL Definition:

Web sites are found by their addresses. Each web site has a URL, or Uniform Resource Locator, assigned to it. This is how a URL is broken down:

http://websearch.about.com/od/dailywebse is our example.

http://: type of file

domain name: location of the file's web server is at websearch.about.com.

backslash,then file name: path or directory on the computer to this file; which in our case is ';od/dailywebsearchtips/qt';. You're just basically moving from sub-directory to sub-directory here.

name of file: name of file, usually ending in .html or .htm.



The URL is the website address. If you have a website, you can promote your company's product. So, do you have a website? As for rating, you can rate anything any way you want to. It's your opinion and you're entitled to it.Can I give every one that respond to the question below a level 5 rating?
Universal

Router

Location
URL = Universal Resource Link





- AnswerMan

How do I get to know this girl?

Here's my situation: I'm in college, and I have a crush on a girl in school. The thing is that in the past, due to some things I rather not talk about right now, I was very shy and low in self esteem. Now, I'm not so shy and I'm improving my social life slowly. It's getting better and better I think.



So that been said, I have no girl experience on how to ask them out and what not. The Idea of even asking a female coworker, who I get along with well in work, if she would like to hang out makes me feel shy/uncertain about it. But that檚 not who I have a crush on.



OK, the girl who I have a crush on is not the best looking girl nor does she dress in the best of fashion but there's something that makes me want to get to know her. Just the other day, I was at the library very concentrated in studying but when I noticed she was behind me I couldn't concentrate no more since she keep popping into my mind. I don't have classes with her, I've never talked to her. I found her to be attractive before but school ended for summer and I didn't see her but now that school started again I'm seen her again in campus, mostly in the library studying. And its also because she is at the library studying that I don't know how to approach her. I don't want to bother her but at the same time I want to get to know here.



I know the best to get to know here is to start to talk to her. I have asked my friends for advice on how to go about it. We even come up with asking a friend of her ';hey whose that girl?'; Maybe that will get her attention on me. But then again, I don檛 know her friends, or never seen them.



What are your people suggestions? How do I start a conversation with her, or get to know her. And of course I檓 not just going to go up to here and tell her how I feel because it would be really weird. Not to say I haven檛 considered it but doing that would be too bold.How do I get to know this girl?
Figure out where she usually goes, before or after the library (Talking in there probably wouldn't be such a great idea), then just walk up when she's not busy (Don't stalk though) and say ';Hey, I've seen you looking at *insert book/subjects* at the library, I find it interesting as well'; If she's the friendly sort, a conversation can probably just flow from there. After a bit more of randomly running into her, you can ask her if she'd like to go and hang out sometime.

How do I deal with a rude coworker?

I'm 18 and working my way through college, working part-time in retail. I've been working at my job for almost 6 months and have always gotten along with all of my coworkers fine. However, this new girl who's in high school was just hired and is nice to literally everybody, except for me. She has acted extremely rude toward me for no apparent reason ever since the second that I politely introduced myself to her when she first began. I don't know why she's doing this, and I wasn't even letting it get to me until I saw that she was talking about me negatively to my other coworkers around the work place, who I'm in good terms with. That's what made it personal. How do I approach the situation? I'm confused, insulted, and mostly upsetHow do I deal with a rude coworker?
The best revenge is to kill her with kindness. It's something most people don't understand and can't compute. Just be saccharine sweet and polite to her. It will show that you're mature, you're not stooping to her level, and she'll look like an @ss for saying negative things about you when you're so nice to her. It does no good to shoot daggers or show her that you're upset because she will feed off of that.How do I deal with a rude coworker?
put spiders in her backpack
You need to talk to HR and have her talked to or disciplined.



This is a terminating offense in most companies.
Honestly, if i were you, i'd let this pass. Are you going to let a little high school girl ruin your day(s)?? Be the mature one and just let her do whatever she wants and i'm sure that the coworkers think she isn't very nice talking smack about the people she works with. I guess you can confront her, but i'm sure that might just stir things up. I worked with quite a few rude people too and when i see them now, they are flipping burgers in a fast food joint hahahaha.
She will probably bury herself in time... You could try asking her, make sure plenty of people are around and in it not on work time for any involved.

Try not to take it personal, it probably has nothing to do with you. The people she is talking to will see what she is doing... use the who kill her will kindness strategy, works every time and really shows what kind of person she is and You are.!
DEAL WITH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Some time people make perception about others only after seeing or listening. Without even knowing much about that person. Or may be she is trying to show you down compared to her in front of others.



But you can change her perception or thinking. Try to be nice and polite to her. Try to find some time and talk her what problem she is having with you. Try to sense her thinking. If she feels comfortable with all these then behave as you are her elder sister and try to make her understand.

In that way she wont feel you as competitor and she might get lowered.



I am not telling it will work 100% but you can try. There are chances.



Good luck!!
The people whom you are on good terms with will see what's going on. If it is affecting the work environment it could be a problem for HR but they usually expect coworkers to work out any personal problems on their own, at least from my experience.



Maybe talk with one of the other coworkers you trust and kind of get a feel for how effective her remarks are. You may find that they all dread seeing her come towards them because she sounds like a broken record. Any kind of animosity would just seem like it is proving her point so I would go with the ';Kill her with kindness,'; strategy as much as it might grate on your nerves. She's obviously an unhappy person and probably won't last long.



Hope it helps. Good Luck.
(1) Give it time

(2) Let her recognise you

(3) Recognise others around her

(4) Move along with your work

(5) She may not like a lot of things about your type of males.