How do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?

How do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?

with feelings I have for a coworker. This coworker and I have been doing intimate(sexual things). Although, never had intercourse. We are not in a relationship, though I have deep feelings for him. He has a gf overseas.I also see him flirting with another girl who works at the office and I instantly get jealous. Also, the last time we hooked up was before New Year's 2009, after we hooked up, he told me he hopes I get a bf this year and that things work out for me since I told him I was going to see a counselor. Last week I wrote him a letter that I was hurt and angry and that I was going to mention it to my counselor, I will see her at the end of the month. Then last Thursday, I emailed him saying that I wasn't hurt and angry and that I hoped we could get along as coworkers. He didn't respond back and he didn't say anything to me, but I kept ignoring him since I didn't know what to doHow do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?
He doesn't know what to do because you don't know what you want to do, and I think he's now past caring.

Carry on with the counselling.How do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?
move on - game player - do not get used - you are special.
make a clean break. be careful. emotional yoyos are not worth it especially with a guy who doesn't seem to be serious. to keep away from emotional turmoil, try not to start the physical part too early so you have time to assess the situation realistically and objectively. mind over emotion.
put yourself together and ger a real relationship . the guy is a player and a liar.
Nothing's gonna happen if you keep ignoring each other. But if you want, just leave him behind you and get on with your life.
Sorry, but you are an object in his eyes, not a person. You need to find someone who actually cares about a relationship, not just physical entertainment...
omg i too have a ';thing'; with my co-worker who also has a girlfriend! she is not overseas however, they live together. we have only made out and he sends me text messages all day and night, i can't even have a boyfriend (i've tried 2 relationships since) because it felt like cheating on them to still talk to him just about ordinary things. but it's a secret at work, this has been going on for almost a year so i can slightly relate because he is literally the man of my dreams but won't leave his girlfriend even though he says he loves me and i'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen and i make him feel so good about himself. we've had these ups and downs too of not talking and me getting mad at him when he can't see me because he has led me on. i know it's not going to work out the ideal way i originally wanted, and you should just accept the same. he's like forbidden fruit, i know that's what makes ';my'; guy even more irresistable. we use eachother to fill the voids in our lives, we both understand that now so we go on with it because we need eachother in a way and it's fun. it sounds like he really cares about you and doesn't want him to hold you back from anything. so if you want to continue doing this realize that right now what you want and what he wants is not the same thing and maybe you should try to be just friends and if you can't do that then just keep it civil at work. but if you're not having fun anymore and you truly need to see a counselor about it, don't talk to him. i know it's so confusing. GOOD LUCK! and also don't forget to keep your options open, he is not the only guy in the world.