Sunday, November 21, 2010

How should I let go of this?

I had hooked up with a coworker since I did feel a little attracted to him. Supposedly he has a gf but I don't know. We never actually had sex but we touched, caressed, and we would have dry sex. You know he would rub his private against mine. The thing is I've never been sexual with or even kissed a guy. So maybe there is something wrong with me. Anyway back in November, I emailed him telling him that this FWB is over and that I would tell HR on him if he ever suggested hooking up. Since November, I've been ignoring him completely no hello nada. Since I was so mad and hurt. Last month he went out of the country, I was actually relieved that he was gone, but then he came back last week and I kept ignoring him until yesterday. Yesterday, I saw him in the kitchen and he said hello, you know like a mechanical/ break the ice hello and I smiled and said hello and that was it. I felt completely at ease. This morning, I ran into him and said hello and he didn't say anything. I emailed him saying that I was hoping we could be on speaking terms since yesterday I felt at ease with speaking to him. He ignored my email. He actually didn't bother to open it and looked at me like a freak. I personally confronted him and he was like fine. As the afternoon progressed, I did a lot of walking by passing his desk, but I didn't bother to talk to him since I was working. As I was walking back and he was leaving he gave me a somewhat dirty rude look. I personally thought that was rude and I sent him an email stating that I thought him looking at me funny was rude and that I was hurting these past few months and that I was hoping we could get along as coworkers. Then I sent him another email that it was best that we didn't talk and that he should leave me alone and let me do my job. How can I move past this and get out and get some friends and a boyfriend? All I do is work and go to school, but I feel if I were getting out with people. This would be easier to deal with.

Sometimes he looks at me weird, so I don't know how he's feeling.How should I let go of this?
First off, not to be an irritant to this situation, but you shouldn't get involved with someone you are working with. It normally ruins your job situation, and can cause problems with the objective of even keeping the job.



Second, it's best you just ignore the situation and find something else to look forwards too. You really don't want to be dealing with a false-love that probably has no chance of existing.



Basically, just go back to work like usual as if neither of you ever did have anything remotely sexual going on.How should I let go of this?
I already told you. LEAVE HIM ALONE. He wants to keep his job and you threw in his face that you will get him fired. SO STOP BOTHERING HIM. LET HIM WORK AND LIVE HIS LIFE.
Wanting to know how he feels has been answered in his response to you. It seems you want to keep this thing going with him as you have not fully gotten over the short relationship. Once you come to the realization it is over then and only then can you move on to another relationship. Your lack of self confidence will lead you down the wrong path again if you're not sure of who you are and what you want from a relationship. Getting friends has nothing to do with this sitiuation and before looking for a boyfriend, you should first clear your mind of this issue fully. You deserve to be happy but it begins from you...

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