How should I let go of this?

I had hooked up with a coworker since I did feel a little attracted to him. Supposedly he has a gf but I don't know. We never actually had sex but we touched, caressed, and we would have dry sex. You know he would rub his private against mine. The thing is I've never been sexual with or even kissed a guy. So maybe there is something wrong with me. Anyway back in November, I emailed him telling him that this FWB is over and that I would tell HR on him if he ever suggested hooking up. Since November, I've been ignoring him completely no hello nada. Since I was so mad and hurt. Last month he went out of the country, I was actually relieved that he was gone, but then he came back last week and I kept ignoring him until yesterday. Yesterday, I saw him in the kitchen and he said hello, you know like a mechanical/ break the ice hello and I smiled and said hello and that was it. I felt completely at ease. This morning, I ran into him and said hello and he didn't say anything. I emailed him saying that I was hoping we could be on speaking terms since yesterday I felt at ease with speaking to him. He ignored my email. He actually didn't bother to open it and looked at me like a freak. I personally confronted him and he was like fine. As the afternoon progressed, I did a lot of walking by passing his desk, but I didn't bother to talk to him since I was working. As I was walking back and he was leaving he gave me a somewhat dirty rude look. I personally thought that was rude and I sent him an email stating that I thought him looking at me funny was rude and that I was hurting these past few months and that I was hoping we could get along as coworkers. Then I sent him another email that it was best that we didn't talk and that he should leave me alone and let me do my job. How can I move past this and get out and get some friends and a boyfriend? All I do is work and go to school, but I feel if I were getting out with people. This would be easier to deal with.

Sometimes he looks at me weird, so I don't know how he's feeling.How should I let go of this?
You need to back up from him. What you are doing is a little much. It sounds like he wants some space and does not want to be anything more than people who faintly smile as they pass each other in the hallway. You do sound like you need to get out. Maybe you can join a group so that you can make some friends. Or volunteer somewhere that you can communicate with people in your community. Can you hang out with your family? Other than that, you let go of this by reviewing what has already happened. Based on his actions, he doesn't want to talk, so just move on to something better.How should I let go of this?
You threatened his JOB. His livelihood. You told him that you will get him fired. He wants NOTHING to do with you. Leave him alone. He has a job in this horrible job-market, and he wants to keep it. PLEASE stop talking to him and leave him alone. Your e-mail alone about threatening to go to HR is enough to get him fired. LEAVE HIM ALONE.
you didn't explain why you were hurt... you were hurt because he has a gf? The fact that you guys didnt speak for months and then you immediately write him a ton of emails after he breaks the ice probably weirded him out. It seems you went a little too far with the threatening him with HR and then all of a sudden after he breaks the ice you try to go back to everything being normal... you should have given it some time, given it a few more awkward hello's in the break room before you contacted him by email.

my advice, try to move on... stop thinking about him because you are only going to hurt yourself more. Hang out with friends on your spare time... i know how difficult it is to find that spare time when you are doing both school and a job, but it is doable.

Good luck!



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Take care and good luck!