Help me with my relationship problems...Win my girl back!!! Pleaseee answer?

Im a freshman in college 6 hours from my hometown. About a year ago, one of my friends was involved with a girl who is now a senior in high school. throughout their breakup, i was like the middleman. unfortunately, they ended it in january, but me and her kept talking because we are coworkers. All along i told her to make a decision regarding her ex (my friend). because she stayed in the middle of liking him but not going back with him. eventually, she started tin june rying to get me to hang out and I refused daily requests from March until Late June. it developed from online to texting, and the occasional short phone call. one night we hung out bc she said she was in trouble, and we kissed, and since then we have kept a secret relationship of sorts, without it ever being official. we hung out the majority of the summer, and when i left for college it sorta ended, but we kept talking on the phone and texting constantly. she also still sometimes got with her ex, my friend. we had one break where we hung out alot and in the following month she begged me to be with her as a couple, but i refused because it would be frowned upon by my social group. so she tried and tried and i told her it was bc her ex. so i went home for thanksgiving and she told me we should be friends, but we hung out all week and kissed and more, but everytime when i left she would say just friends...very confusing. now I want to be with her because I realized shes more important to me than my friends opinions, but she told me she wont be with me because she still ahs feelings for her ex, the one i told her to make a decision on 6 months ago. I need help on how to get her back!?!?!? Help me with my relationship problems...Win my girl back!!! Pleaseee answer?
it was just a rebound thing to her. let her go.Help me with my relationship problems...Win my girl back!!! Pleaseee answer?
It's really hard to know who is in love in a triangle affair. You clearly aren't on the controlling end of this relationship. I would tell you to back off of this one because your kind of being used as the filler. Meaning when there's nothing to do, there you are. Your not number one, even when your with this girl. She was in trouble and you were superman for the moment. It felt good to you. Just know that your friend is still strong in her mind. Your her net for when she falls again. Move on and get yours. Be number one in someone Else's life. You won't have to sneak and lie to no one. Happy and loved.Don't settle. You have to get to a place where having more in a relationship is good for you and that's what you want. You will starve with this part time stuff. Good luck!
I am kind of in the same boat as you. I was told to say i understand but I'm here when you are ready to mine again. And leave it like that and see what happen. I said that and I still havent heard anything from him but I only did it like an hour ago.