Be amicable or be miserable - take your pick.
That's my philosophy anyway.
Kind regards, Penny xxHow do people pretend to be nice and try to get along with coworkers that they can not stand?
Good luck to you Bettyboo, I know it's hard working with somebody like that, but she will be her own undoing in the end - just sit bad and let it happen :)
Regards, Penny xxx
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How do people pretend to be nice and try to get along with coworkers that they can not stand?*back*
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Its better to be nice and try to get along then to make your life miserable in a constant fight or battle. Furthermore, maybe its just that you don't know that person well, I'm sure that as soon as you get to know them better they wont seem that bad at all. It has happen to all of us.
ok, why do you hate those people? you hate them because they ___________. you hate them because you see them as ____.
you see them a certain way.
you would certianly not want to be seen as an equal to them, correct? you certianly dont want to be seen to other people the way these people are seen by you, right?
the best way, is to make sure you are seen as the kind of person you know you want to be seen as.
that is:
no matter who you speak to, always smile, have eyecontact, ask how are you, shake hands.
no need to invite them for coffee. but always be seem as the lady or gentlemen who is the bigger person, and treats everyone the same. whether theyre the boss or a bastard.
they don't shout at them or hit them, they tend to ignore what is said, but look like they are paying attention, they can also sometimes............ did you mean why?
I just keep it to a working relationship if i dnt see eye to eye with someone, and revolve all conversation around how work can be made easier for all concerned
Smile and interact mainly only when you have to. Don't pretend to be nice; be nice. This means don't plot ways to get the person out of the workplace and don't go out of your way to lie or deceive the coworker. If you learn someone is going to hurt that coworker, care. Just treat them as you'd like to be treated or leave them alone if they also can't stand you.
Look at your question. Don't pretend to be nice, be nice. I have found that if I treat everybody the way I want to be treated, I won't have many people that I can't stand.
You avoid the co-workers as much as you can without appearing rude. But when they can't be avoided at all, you play nice with them and then quickly move on.
Mature people (and even very young people can be mature when they need to be) realize they are not going to like everyone with whom they work and don't have to (as long as someone isn't really, really, being abusive or creating out-of the-ordinary problems such as trying to get them blamed for something they didn't do). They have outgrown the egotistical belief that others must always meet with their approval and never make them feel insecure for them to be able to work with them.
There is professional behavior, and that means we don't have to go out to lunch with someone we don't like, but we can say ';hi'; to them when we bring them expense reports or we can even exchange a few pleasantries as part of professional and courteous behavior. It isn't ';pretending to be nice';. When people are mature and well adjusted they are generally nice. Not being nice on the inside means a person has emotional issues or insecurities. When people are generally nice on the inside they generally adopt professional behavior because they know how important it is that people work as a team.
If a co-worker is being unreasonable or deceitful or cruel it is possible to handle the situation through appropriate channels, but even if two co-workers have gone through a conflict they generally need to be grown-up, put it aside, and move on.
When people have ';issues'; with people in their own families it may be a ';crisis';. When people have issues with someone at work its ';just work'; and just an issue that can be addressed in a professional way, even if that professional way is simply to be civil. Bringing emotional matters into the workplace is not professional, and even people in non-professional jobs need to behave in a professional way.
In general, people who are secure and who like themselves like most other people as well. We all tend to assume others are like us. If we run into a person with personality problems (and there are plenty of them) we just have to write it off as their problem not ours and just be our usual nice selves.
People who don't like one another can be civil. It makes things better for all involved and for the work setting in general. You have to like the person you're married to. You have to like your best friend. You don't have to like everyone at work.
Survival and money to live, that's why. Cos if u don't nice with them, u will never know when your job got busted and noone will share intelligence with u 2. :) hehe....
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