Sunday, November 14, 2010

How do I move on from this?

I had hooked up with a coworker since I did feel a little attracted to him. Supposedly he has a gf but I don't know. We never actually had sex but we touched, caressed, and we would have dry sex. You know he would rub his private against mine. The thing is I've never been sexual with or even kissed a guy. So maybe there is something wrong with me. Anyway back in November, I emailed him telling him that this FWB is over and that I would tell HR on him if he ever suggested hooking up. Since November, I've been ignoring him completely no hello nada. Since I was so mad and hurt. Last month he went out of the country, I was actually relieved that he was gone, but then he came back last week and I kept ignoring him until yesterday. Yesterday, I saw him in the kitchen and he said hello, you know like a mechanical/ break the ice hello and I smiled and said hello and that was it. I felt completely at ease. This morning, I ran into him and said hello and he didn't say anything. I emailed him saying that I was hoping we could be on speaking terms since yesterday I felt at ease with speaking to him. He ignored my email. He actually didn't bother to open it and looked at me like a freak. I personally confronted him and he was like fine. As the afternoon progressed, I did a lot of walking by passing his desk, but I didn't bother to talk to him since I was working. As I was walking back and he was leaving he gave me a somewhat dirty rude look. I personally thought that was rude and I sent him an email stating that I thought him looking at me funny was rude and that I was hurting these past few months and that I was hoping we could get along as coworkers. Then I sent him another email that it was best that we didn't talk and that he should leave me alone and let me do my job. How can I move past this and get out and get some friends and a boyfriend? All I do is work and go to school, but I feel if I were getting out with people. This would be easier to deal with.How do I move on from this?
Well, you may be unintentionally leading him on. Even if you aren't, he might think that. He probably feels jerked around a little bit. Personally, I don't think he's worth your time because if you know he's in a relationship already and he's already touched you more than he should have, he doesn't sound too faithful. But in terms of you two being friendly again, I'd just give him space for a while. You may not have been trying to flirt with him, but maybe he thinks you were, which is causing him to get his feathers ruffled because he may already be in a good relationship.



Here is my advice: Leave him be and let him settle down. or now, assume he is already in a relationship unless he says himself that he is not. After a little while of space, if he doesn't approach you first, then go to him. I suggest is that you tell him to leave a picture of a smiley face on a flash card on your desk after you leave for the day or before you arrive in the morning. The happy face will be quick, easy, no feelings have to be hurt by mean words, and it will be discrete so no one else will know. If you come back and see nothing, that means ';No';. Good luck.

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