How do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?

How do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?

with feelings I have for a coworker. This coworker and I have been doing intimate(sexual things). Although, never had intercourse. We are not in a relationship, though I have deep feelings for him. He has a gf overseas.I also see him flirting with another girl who works at the office and I instantly get jealous. Also, the last time we hooked up was before New Year's 2009, after we hooked up, he told me he hopes I get a bf this year and that things work out for me since I told him I was going to see a counselor. Last week I wrote him a letter that I was hurt and angry and that I was going to mention it to my counselor, I will see her at the end of the month. Then last Thursday, I emailed him saying that I wasn't hurt and angry and that I hoped we could get along as coworkers. He didn't respond back and he didn't say anything to me, but I kept ignoring him since I didn't know what to do.How do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?
Ride it out. You'll probably go through some emotional turmoil, and there's really no way to avoid that. If he refuses to communicate with you, try and avoid seeing him until you get over your feelings.How do I get myself out of this emotional turmoil?
Medication...you sound kind of bi-polar (no offense)
dump him, he sounds like a douche.
look for someone different
that's something 17 year old boys do.

He's a loooooooser.
u cant date him any more move on and find someone better
dump him. he's using you and you are clearly not emotionally ready to be in this kind of no strings attached relationship with him. he doesn't have feelings for you as he clearly stated he hopes you find a boyfriend and be happy and he has a gf that he wants to be with. please end this now before you get even more attached and he hurts you in many more ways.



you really need to continue seeing your counsellor more often and explain this situtation to her and then follow her advice.
ignore him
Stop messing around with him. He probably stopped talking to you because you are getting a little dramatic with him. Also, if he has a girlfriend, then he wasn't really that into you to begin with. He just wanted some casual fun, but when you developed feelings for him it ruined everything for him. Move on and find someone who wants to be with you and only you! You deserve to have the best of both worlds! Plus, if he cheated on his girl he would cheat on you, too, so find someone who can be faithful!
Keep ignoring him. I'm going to honest with you and say that you having these affairs with him knowing he had a girlfriend was very wrong. So if I were you I would think about what it means to commit to a relationship. You need to find someone who will also commit and you will have a lost lasting, more wonderful relationship.
what happened here is that you became what is called ';friends with benefits'; without knowing. This NEVER works out. just try your best to ignore him since its obvious that he saw you as a booty call.
You are one mixed up girl. It is clear you want this guy all to yourself.

It is also clear he has no commitment to you. I would suggest you break it off, start new and find another guy.
You already know the answer, just don't want to admit the truth. You had intimate relations with a guy who has a GF oversees. Doesn't that tell you something???



He was just looking for a FWB situation and you happen to be the nipplehead who gave him what he wanted, but like many girls, gave away your heart along with your mouth (or whatever body part you let him use). He used you, plain and simple. You expressed ';feelings'; for him and he went running for the hills.



Sorry hon, but you can't undue this one. Forget it ever happened and find someone else, preferably NOT at work though. I always tell my GFs to stay away from guys at work, cause when it goes bad, and trust me it usually does, you still have to see that person everyday and be reminded of the mistake you allowed yourself to make.



Don't beat yourself up over this though, you did nothing wrong, just that you should know better than to get intimately involved with a dude that has another girl. He was just looking for someone else to raise his body temperature while is GF was away. He got what he wanted, tried to tell you by saying he ';hopes you get a BF'; and instead of heading the warning signs of his behavior/comments, you got all upset and wrote him a spiteful letter telling him how you ';feel';.



RULE #1 ladies - guys and feelings don't mix. Use your GFs to discuss your feelings and leave the guys out of it, they just can't handle it, especially if they're immature.



Good luck at work.